This is a risky exercise. I know I’ll inevitably leave out some truly important names. Several years ago, I faced a daunting task: curating my overflowing library. I aimed to distill the books that truly mattered, ruthlessly reducing my collection by 80%. The idea was simple: keep the essentials, digitize the maybes, and reclaim precious shelf space. But the execution? Painful. Nights were spent agonizing over decisions, stress gnawed at me, but I persevered. I got it done.
My initial reflections on this process are below. But first, let’s explore why curating your library—in the truest sense of the word—is so vital.
What does it mean to curate a library?
In this context, “curate” means more than just organizing shelves; it’s about intentionally selecting, organizing, and caring for the authors and books that have profoundly influenced you. It’s about recognizing the power of the written word to shape your soul. Think of the original meaning of someone who “curates”: a person entrusted with the care of souls. That’s the spirit we’re aiming for here.
Why is this so important?
What you read reveals who you are and who you are becoming. It’s a mirror reflecting your inner life. We could preach a sermon on this! How do you spend your time? Who forms your inner circle? Tell me what you read. These questions are inextricably linked.
Curating your library allows you to:
Dig a deep reservoir of knowledge: Information overload is a modern plague. We can’t possibly keep up with the daily deluge of content, but we can cultivate depth. Focus on the topics that resonate with your soul and foster your leadership vision, guided by the Holy Spirit, and immerse yourself in the wisdom of those who have gone before. This focused reading builds a deep well of understanding you can draw from for years to come.
Pass on wisdom to others: Leaders are constantly challenged to stay informed, to be conversant on a wide range of subjects, to have the right answers. Knowing which authors to read, which voices to heed, is crucial for empowering those you lead. Your curated library becomes a resource for their growth as well.
A Reflection Exercise:
Consider your faith journey. Which authors have had the greatest impact on you? The Bible, of course, tops the list. But beyond Scripture, which books have shaped your character, influenced your discipleship, impacted you theologically, motivated you missionally, expanded your leadership, challenged your assumptions, or simply blessed your soul?
These reflection questions are designed to spark your memory: Who has God used to…
…shape your character?
…influence your discipleship?
…impact you theologically?
…motivate you missionally?
…expand your leadership?
…challenge you?
…bless you?
This list is just a starting point. Answer each question individually, brainstorm a list of names, or find your own way to reflect. The important thing is to give this process the careful consideration it deserves.
Some of my touchstones:
Life Together – Dietrich Bonhoeffer
Master Plan of Evangelism – Robert Coleman
The Coming Church Revolution – Carl George
Organic Church – Neil Cole
As You Go…Make Disciples – Colin Noyes
How to Curate Your Library:
Reflect: Identify the authors who have profoundly impacted you and your ministry.
Narrow: From that list, select the books you truly need to keep on your shelf. These are the works you return to again and again.
Box it up: Pack the remaining books into boxes.
The Year of Testing: For the next year, mark which books you pull from the boxes and which remain untouched.
The Great Cull: At the end of the year, make the necessary changes. Donate the unused books to a deserving emerging leader.
Mentoring for Coach Certification:
Over 13 years (2007-2020) and three levels of certification with the International Coach Federation (ICF), I discovered the power of mentorship. The required 10 hours of mentor coaching for each level (Associate, Professional, and Master) were transformative. Feedback, awareness, and new perspectives were game-changers.
To maintain my Master certification, I recently completed 40 hours of coach assessor training (Continuing Coach Education Units or CCEUs). This allows me to mentor other coaches and assess their competencies. My extensive work with Bob Logan researching and developing world-class Christian coaches adds another dimension to my mentoring. (You can find our resources here: CLICK HERE).
Whether you’re pursuing ICF certification or simply seeking to refine your coaching skills, I offer one-on-one and cohort mentoring. If you’re interested in exploring how we can cultivate your coaching effectiveness in 2025, schedule a free discovery call with my assistant, Samantha (admin@infocusnet.org). Let’s work together to unlock your full potential as a coach.
Look for a new resource to equip coach mentors to guide coaches through their Journey of Ongoing Growth later this year!
Some of the people God has used in my journey have provided keen awareness of God’s activity in my life. We have never met in person, but they have influenced me through their books, teachings, videos, etc. One writer, who is currently sitting in that space in my life, has helped me on my journey to create new spiritual rhythms in the midst of launching our adult children into their chosen fields, helping sort through health issues with various family members, and exploring new ministry opportunities internationally.
The writings of St. Ignatius have been the instrument God has used for this purpose. I will never meet him, this side of heaven, however, his writings from the 1500s have put light on my path and many, many others who are looking to deepen their understanding of God’s activity in life.
A note about the Ignatian Exercises: you should not attempt to go it alone! In the development of the exercises, Ignatius encouraged the vital role of a “listener” to help the participant discern the voices we hear and follow the leading of the Holy Spirit to navigate the process of spiritual formation
I wrote a blog entitled How to Make a Prayerful Decision, where I summarize the decision-making process St. Ignatius introduced. This process can change the focus and intent when discerning God’s will in a matter. When I used it as part of a weekend planning conversation with a regional, denominational team, it helped participants come to a God-honoring decision regarding the future leadership structure.
God has used many authors and teachers to help me sharpen my coaching skills. One of those voices he has used is Michael Bunjay Steiner, author of “The Coaching Habit.” I referenced him in a blog entitled: What Is the Best Way to Turn a Corner? Of all the books I’ve read on coaching, this is the best secular book I have come across as I’ve progressed through my coach certification with the International Coach Federation (see bottom of blog for more). His simple approach boiled the coaching conversation down to these four questions:
What’s on your mind?
What’s the real challenge for you?
What do you want?
How can I help?
In addition, throughout the certification process I learned from dozens of international practitioners who are thought leaders in the international coaching community.
These are just two people who have influenced me in my personal and ministry journey.
Who has influenced you?
Expanding on the Types of Influence:
Books and Writings: These offer a unique window into another person’s thoughts and experiences. They can provide new perspectives, challenge our assumptions, and offer practical guidance. The written word transcends time and space, allowing us to connect with individuals from centuries past, like St. Ignatius, whose wisdom remains relevant today. Beyond the content itself, the act of reading engages our minds and encourages reflection, further deepening the impact.
Teachings (Formal and Informal): Teachers, whether in a formal setting or through recorded lectures and videos, distill complex ideas into digestible formats. They often provide frameworks for understanding difficult concepts and inspire us to learn more. Michael Bunjay Steiner is one such teacher God has used in my development as a coach.
Shared Experiences and Stories: Hearing about the lives of others, their struggles, and their triumphs, can be incredibly impactful. These stories offer vicarious learning experiences, allowing us to glean wisdom from others’ journeys without having to walk the same path ourselves. Biographies, documentaries, and autobiographies provide these valuable insights.
Personal Conversations: Direct interaction, even if brief, can leave a lasting impression. A single conversation can spark a new idea, offer encouragement, or challenge a long-held belief. The personal connection creates a different level of engagement and can be particularly powerful.
The Impact of These Influences:
God’s Faithfulness: Recognizing the diverse ways God works through others reinforces His faithfulness. It reminds us that He is constantly present and actively involved in our lives, even through seemingly ordinary encounters.
Diversity of Gifts: The variety of individuals who influence us highlights the richness and diversity of God’s gifts. Each person brings unique talents, perspectives, and experiences to the table, enriching our understanding of the world and ourselves.
Lineage of Faithful Servants: Connecting with the wisdom of those who have come before us creates a sense of continuity and belonging. It reminds us that we are part of a larger story, a lineage of faith that stretches back through generations.
Spiritual Direction and Growth: As I mentioned, the influence of figures like St. Ignatius can provide profound spiritual direction. Their writings and teachings can offer guidance in prayer, discernment, and the development of spiritual practices. The Ignatian Exercises, with their emphasis on guided reflection, exemplify the importance of having a “listener” or spiritual director to help navigate the journey. This highlights the value of seeking counsel and guidance from others as we grow in our faith.
Reflecting on Your Own Influences:
It’s a valuable exercise to regularly reflect on the people who have influenced you. Consider:
Who are the individuals whose words or actions have resonated most deeply with you?
What specific lessons have you learned from them?
How have these influences shaped your beliefs, values, and actions?
How can you continue to learn from these individuals, even if you can’t interact with them directly?
By consciously acknowledging the impact of these “multitude of voices,” we can gain a deeper appreciation for God’s work in our lives and continue to grow in wisdom and understanding.
MENTORING FOR COACH CERTIFICATION
Over the 13 years (2007-2020) it took to move through the three levels of coach certification with the International Coach Certification (ICF) I learned a lot. One of the requirements to attain the initial certification for the Associate Certified coach, advance from the Associate to the Professional, and from the professional to Master – is 10 hours of coach mentoring. This was the most impactful aspect of the certification process for me. Having a trained assessor provide feedback, create awareness, and introduce new ways to engage was a game changer!
In this last cycle, to maintain my Master certification (that is me in the photo at the top), I went through 40 hours of coach assessor training (called Continuing Coach Education Units or CCEUs) so that I can come alongside other coaches as a mentor to assess their coaching competency. The extensive work I’ve done with my colleague, Bob Logan, to research and develop world-class Christian coaches, gives me the added advantage of bringing those two worlds together. Here are the resources we developed to equip leaders in coaching – CLICK HERE. Whether working one-to-one or in a cohort, I come alongside coaches to attain the next level of certification or simply improve their coaching. If you are interested in learning more about becoming a certified coach with ICF or improving your coaching, I invite you to explore a coach mentoring relationship with me.
Please schedule a free discovery call with my assistant, Samantha (admin@inforcusnet.org), to explore how we can work together to cultivate your coaching effectiveness in 2025!
Have you ever stopped to consider the people who have profoundly shaped your faith and leadership? These individuals, often quietly working in the background, leave an indelible mark on our character, and guide us toward our true potential. Reflecting on their influence is a powerful way to recognize God’s hand in our lives, and discover how we too can impact others.
Think back to your childhood. For me, a pivotal figure was Mr. Gillard, my 4th-grade Sunday School teacher. To a scrawny group of 12-year-old boys, he seemed larger than life. He combined firmness with gentleness, planting seeds of faith by committing Scripture to memory, reading the Bible, and engaging in lessons. I still remember Saturday night cramming sessions and the anticipation of Sunday morning. Mr. Gillard, along with my parents and others, created a safe and loving community where my faith could take root and flourish.
Why is it so important to look back on these influential figures? It allows us to:
Recognize God’s Provision: We see how He orchestrated the perfect people for our journey.
Revisit Valuable Lessons: We rediscover the wisdom they imparted.
Appreciate the Power of Community: We understand the importance of connection and support.
Challenge the Myth of Independence: We acknowledge that we’re not meant to walk this path alone.
Celebrate our Spiritual Heritage: We honor the legacy of those who came before us.
Now, let’s turn the page to your leadership journey. Who has shaped you as a leader? Reflecting on this question reveals a great deal about who you are. I’ve personally experienced the profound impact of mentors and wrote a blog post expressing my gratitude. My biggest takeaway…I was never truly alone; the right people always appeared at the right time.
Who has helped you grow and develop as a leader?
Take some time to reflect:
Brainstorm: Jot down the names of people who have influenced your leadership.
Pray: Ask God to bring others to mind.
Complete your List: Add any names that come to you.
Give Thanks: Express gratitude for God’s provision.
In my early ministry, I guided leaders through an exercise called “Symbol Timeline,” helping them visually map out the people who shaped their lives. From there, they identified key lessons and values. You can learn more about this exercise here.
Don’t just think about it – live it!
What’s one specific action you can take this week to live out your values? Our actions speak volumes. When others see us prioritizing our values, it inspires them to do the same.
May we all find the time to reflect on those who have shaped our character and leadership, and join Jesus on His mission.
Need help clarifying your personal mission?
Ready to embark on a coaching journey? Schedule a free discovery call with my assistant, Samantha (admin@inforcusnet.org), to explore how we can work together to cultivate your soul for greater ministry effectiveness in 2025!
“The Vision: Becoming a World-Class Coach Trainer”
Twenty-five years ago, a casual conversation with a friend sparked an unexpected vision: “To be a world-class coach trainer.” It wasn’t a fully formed idea then, but over the years, I’ve dedicated myself to honing the skills necessary to bring this vision to life.
Five Pillars of Effective Coach Training:
My journey has revealed the essential elements for truly impactful coach training:
Be Coached: Learning through firsthand experience is invaluable.
Read: A strong foundation of knowledge is crucial.
Practice: Consistent application of skills is key to mastery.
Mentorship: Experienced guidance provides invaluable support and feedback.
Rigorous Assessment: Continuous evaluation ensures ongoing growth and improvement.
While these principles apply to most leadership and skill-based training, many leaders, unfortunately, neglect these crucial steps. They are often too busy and driven, and neglect the “hard work” required in the list below.
Common Pitfalls in Leader Development:
Overlooking Essential Skills: Failing to identify the specific skills needed for success.
Insufficient Skill-Focused Training: Providing inadequate training that directly addresses key competencies.
Lack of Supportive Relationships: Neglecting to foster strong mentor-mentee or peer-to-peer relationships.
Inadequate Follow-Up and Assessment: Failing to provide ongoing feedback and track progress over time.
Neglecting Personal Development: Failing to prioritize continuous personal and professional growth.
Sadly, many institutions, despite their good intentions, fall short in developing truly exceptional leaders. What I mean is, institutions become institutional quickly and lack the rigor necessary to train world-class leaders. I am not criticizing seminaries or undergraduate institutions for that matter, but it is so difficult to stay relevant and focused on the outcomes leaders need to have to reach their potential.
A Case Study in Transformative Change:
A prime example of this is an institution in India that, after recognizing the limitations of its existing approach, embarked on a complete redesign of its leadership training program. They are committed to learning, growing, and changing so that graduates can reach their full potential and plant churches, that plant churches, that plant churches! This transformative journey, documented in “Breaking Tradition to Accomplish Vision,” demonstrates the power of commitment to learning and continuous improvement.
Coaching as a Catalyst for Exponential Growth:
Coaching could accelerate the development of their students exponentially. By empowering individuals to tap into their full potential, coaching can equip them with the self-awareness, resilience, and strategic thinking needed to overcome challenges and achieve extraordinary results.
Over the next six months, we will be engaging in a series of virtual sessions to introduce participants to the principles and practices of coaching. Our focus will be on equipping team leaders to empower their own teams and cultivate a culture of growth and development. It is fun to see how hungry and eager the leaders are to learn how to empower others.
The Vision: A Train-the-Trainer Model
The long-term vision for Project Congo is to establish a train-the-trainer model, enabling this initial cohort to become multipliers of coaching knowledge and skills within their organizations.
The Training Journey:
To appreciate what participants will be going through I will unpack the the training process:
20 hours of virtual group coach mentoring
16 hours of in-person workshops
10 hours of one-on-one coaching sessions
5 hours of independent reading
This intensive 51-hour program will provide participants with the knowledge, skills, and experience necessary to become effective coaches.
Early Successes:
Even after our first session, participants are already experiencing the benefits of this transformative approach. One participant shared, “Even now I am beginning to see the value of connecting with members of my team.”
This is just the beginning of an exciting journey of learning, growth, and impact.
Your help is needed!
There is still time to close the gap on our goal of raising $45,000 towards Project Congo. We have reached 93% and have another $3,130 to go. If you are interested to learn more, please click HERE.
What would you do if you knew God would not allow you to fail? This isn’t just about ticking off to-do lists; it’s about a faith-fueled journey of self-discovery and divine guidance.
Why Dream Big?
Creating a “faith-based bucket list” isn’t just about making a list; it’s about igniting a spark within you.
Rediscover Joy: Stuck in a rut? This exercise can jolt you out of your comfort zone and lead you to unexpected passions.
Embrace Growth: Breaking free from old patterns – in thought, behavior, and even spirituality – strengthens you, just like weight training builds muscle.
Deepen Your Trust: Another reason might be the opportunity to trust God in ways to which you are unaccustomed. In Scripture, it is common to read the story of a leader who is going in one direction, and when God shows up, takes a very different path. This is the journey of faith.
Ready to Dive In?
This is the perfect time to explore new horizons, pursue your dreams, and let go of anything holding you back. Whether you’re embarking on this solo or with a loved one, this guide will help you on your way.
First, Know Thyself:
Half Empty or Half Full? How do you view the world? Are you a glass-half-empty pessimist, an optimistic go-getter, or somewhere in between? Your perspective shapes your approach to life, including this bucket list.
What Season Are You In? Are you in a fruitful season? Are you in a drought? Are you in a restful season? Are you getting ready for harvest? Reflect on your current season, and let it guide your aspirations.
Now, Let Your Faith Soar:
Start with Prayer: Begin with a simple prayer: “Jesus, what do you want me to know?”
Capture Your Dreams: Keep a journal or use a digital tool to record every idea that comes to mind. Don’t censor yourself!
Embrace the Unexpected: Resist the urge to limit your dreams. Let your imagination run wild.
Revisit and Refine: Regularly review your list, adding, removing, and refining your aspirations as needed.
Reflect and Act:
Identify Themes: What common threads emerge from your list?
Take Action: Choose a few short-term goals to get started.
Listen to Your Heart: Which dream excites you most deeply?
Hear God’s Voice: What is God saying to you through this process?
My Iona Journey:
Years ago, I yearned to visit Iona, a Scottish island steeped in Celtic spirituality. To fulfill this dream, in 2021, I signed-up for a cohort on spiritual formation at the Fuller Theological Seminary as part of a Doctorate of Ministry degree. As an audit student, I was there for the trip to Iona which was not until the end of the three-year schedule. Little did I know what I was in for. Over the next 3 years, I worked through some deeply-held assumptions about God and myself. It kind of wrecked me – but I am a better follower of Jesus for it! However, it all started with a desire to go to Iona.This journey, sparked by a simple bucket list item, transformed my understanding of faith and myself. You never know where your own list might lead you!
This is just the beginning. Let your faith-fueled adventure unfold!
Help is Available
Ready to embark on your own coaching adventure? Schedule a free discovery call with my assistant Samantha (admin@inforcusnet.org) to find a time that works for you. Let’s join forces, and make 2025 the year you dream big!
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