by Gary Reinecke | Jun 5, 2016 | Coach Training, Leader Development |
Most days I start my morning with breakfast on the patio. We live in an unusual location in So Cal. Unusual in that we have an unobstructed view of a hill vs. a neighbor peering over our backyard. If you have been to this part of the world you appreciate how special this “open space” is compared to other parts of the country. I enjoy getting out before the sun rises to drink-in the cool, morning breeze and reflect on the day ahead.
I’ve been asked by a couple of people lately who have wondered about the self-care/”soul-care” of a coach. This first came out in India while training leaders in the coaching process who were learning how to catalyze disciple-making movements. A young woman asked me: “What do you do to take care of yourself?” At first, I reflected that I’m not sure I do a good job at this. I’m like most people who stay busy. Slowing down is a discipline that I’ve yet to master. But then I thought a bit more and this is what I discovered about myself.
Most mornings over the last 25+ years I’ve gotten my body out the door to exercise e.g. go to the gym, run, mountain-bike, swim or walk. The majority of those times were on my own except when I ran with the trails with buddies in Phoenix, mountain-bike with my wife or more recently, enjoy a Friday morning walk with my two brothers. During that early morning routine the Lord settles my soul for the day ahead. I listen to the Holy Spirit, discern his leading on various topics He brings to my attention and prepare my soul for the day ahead. Periodically I journal and take a more structured approach but the physical outlet of exercise has been my mainstay.
Listening and discerning what the Holy Spirit is saying, is the most critical skill in coaching (in the research I conducted with Bob Logan & Chuck Ridley we call it “Abiding in Christ” – see Developing Coaching Excellence). In fact, you can do the other eight competencies of coaching and be a very good coach; but you will never be a world-class coach without mastering this skill, based on my experience assessing and training coaches.
The challenge for you is to discover the best practice given your personality. For me, integrating physical activity and listening to God works. But for you, it may be a quiet corner at the local Starbucks. And others, it might be in the midst of serving the poor and disenfranchised. Enjoying nature is another God-given conduit to connect with Him.
What practices work for you?
I invite your feedback and would love to hear your thoughts below.
by Gary Reinecke | May 18, 2016 | Coach Training, Leader Development, Personal Development |
In 2005 I took a sabbatical. To prepare, I asked a colleague to coach me to take advantage of the opportunity. What I gained from that experience stays with me to this day.
One of the most important learnings I have from that experience is the value of being coached as you coach others. I need to be reminded every 30 days, what if feels like to be on the receiving end of a coaching conversation. Responsibility to set the agenda, anticipation for the appointment and the satisfaction when I realize that our time was well-spent, focusing on the important and not urgent areas of life/ministry.
When I was in Delhi, India recently I met a young Indian by the name of Mushek. He is launching a coaching business called Lead Well with the unique strategy to serve others who seek to do Business as Mission (BAM). That evening he asked me about my vision, where I am headed and how to get there. He coached me!
It was humbling to sit in the seat of the “person being coached” – but worth it! It was refreshing to share my vision and to have someone listen. And to leave with a fresh perspective and actions to take.
Most times I meet with my coach I leave with clarity of vision, practical steps to implement and a new perspective on my situation. Then I’m better able to coach others because I can empathize with them as they sit in my seat. What are the benefits you experience as you are on the receiving end of a coaching relationship?
by Gary Reinecke | Apr 23, 2016 | Church Multiplication, Coach Training, Leader Development, Uncategorized |
You’ve probably heard about the rule of thirds as it relates to art and photography. Recently though, people have been talking about a rule of thirds as it pertains to personal and professional development. This was reinforced as I completed a year-long training process with a network of church planting coaches this month.
These are outstanding leaders in their own right. Over the course of the training process participants were asked to engage in various learning environments including webinars, workshops, triads, etc. As you might expect, when life got in the way the urgent took precedent over the important and people were forced to choose. What I found was that 2/3 of the participants were able to complete the training.
The insight I’ve learned from training various groups over the last 25+ years is that there seems to be three distinct levels of engagement from individuals you train.
- Group #1 were “All in!” They surpassed expectations. About 1/3 of the group I trained were these high achievers.
- Group #2 were “Right on!” They met expectations. Another 1/3 engaged in the process and finished well.
- Group #3 were “Not yet!” They under-performed. This final 1/3, did not engage at the level of the first two, were inconsistent or failed to complete the process e.g. the timing for them was off.
It is important to have realistic expectations when training leaders. What is your experience like? When you objectively assess your training results, what percentage are in Group #1, Group #2 and Group #3?
Please comment below, I’d love to hear your experience.
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by Gary Reinecke | Apr 17, 2016 | Church Growth, Church Multiplication, Coach Training, Disciplemaking, Focused Ministry, Leader Development, Personal Development |
I’m as happy as a pig in mud! I mentioned that I was working on the new InFocus website. Today you get a preview – click on www.infocusnet.org.
I was thinking back the other day. When I was 18 years old, I traveled to London, England to explore the possibility of playing soccer (“football”) and going to college. What I discovered about the player developmental system with the top flight Arsenal Football Club, influenced me for the rest of my life. The club was organized around player development so there were players ready in the wings when injuries occurred, a footballer retired or was disciplined.
One afternoon, I was given the opportunity to train with the Arsenal youth team. Every player was outstanding, had been assessed and placed with a group of boys of similar talent with the intent of taking their game to the next level. The fortunate few were given opportunities to serve an apprenticeship where they learned the game of football from seasoned professionals. They started out cleaning boots for the established players and for a select talent, allowed to progress to train with the reserves until they proved they had the skills to advance.
That model has served me well in ministry. As the product of a Christian home, a vibrant church and multiple people who have invested in me; I have experienced the power of coaching, the necessity of training and the catalytic influence of exceptional leaders in my life. Out of this crucible the vision for InFocus was birthed.
The passion to help people far from God discover who they are and what they are called to do, burns at the core of InFocus. The purpose why I coach, train and consult is so that more and better disciples, leaders and churches are multiplied. I hope you enjoy the new look and feel to the site.
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